Problem Age

My parents totally forbid me everything. Always when I start telling them about a boy, they ask me: How is school? Half year ago they explained to me that I should give up looking for a boyfriend.

Despite that, I have a very good girlfriend who till now has had a lot of friends some of them being about 18. She wears make-up, she started smoking and she doesn t have good marks at school. My parents anyway forbid me meeting her. I talked to me mother about this, but she doesn t understand me. Please, help me because I don t want to wait till I am 18 to choose me boyfriend.

I know it s hard for you, but you should try to understand your parents. Naturally, they should understand that you go through a period in which you elaborate your own theories about life.

But you are young and you need an experienced guide for the moment. They don t forbid you everything to upset you. They only want to protect you. You should be happy. Your friend destroys her health if she s smoking. It s very possible that she finds this interesting without thinking at the consequences. I think it s ridiculous, to talk about make-up on a 12-year-old girl. It seems that your friend s parents don t show too much interest in protecting her. You should ask some other parents to explain the purpose of these interdictions, so that you will understand your parents better. The best think to do is to write them a letter about your worries and wishes. This will make them think My friend, whom I really cared about, did in an accident a year ago. When I found out about the tragedy, I felt that for me everything was over. I couldn t understand why the boy that loved me didn t stand by me anymore. I was running on the streets, hoping to meet him somewhere. For me a thing was clear: I will never love anyone as much as I loved him. That s why I decided to be more confident in me. I ve isolated myself from all my friends, my only preoccupation being school. I ve repressed the fear of loneliness. But now I need to be loved. I fill so lonely that I need a man to love me and to listen to me. Because I m very shy, I don t know how to make a boyfriend.

What should I do in order to find someone? How can I realize if I am taken seriously? In order to resist the pain caused by the death of a loved person it is needed wiliness and extraordinary inside strength. A tragedy of this kind jolts the concept about life for every one of us. The shock could be so big that the consequence refuses to accept the reality for a long time. Then you fill wick and desperate and it seems that nothing can compensate the lost. But we are much stronger than we believe during this period. Others can consulate us, but everyone must go over the lost alone. Often we isolate ourselves concisely, an isolation which for a while could be necessarily, so that everyone to recover and to look at the future confi-dently. But after this period of time you can t anymore avoid going back to the normal life you used to have. You ...